Here is some sexual health information for your daughter who is interested in boys.
- Have her start birth control before her first time having sex. Girls can get pregnant the first time they have intercourse.
- There are many birth control options that work for your teen girl. There are even options can
help her manage her period or help control acne. In fact, about 1/3 of girls who use birth control start it before they ever start having sex. Talk to your doctor about the best options for her. Start looking at options.
- Get an appointment for her to talk to a doctor. Try one of these teen-friendly clinics.
- Make sure she always uses a condom, too. It’s called the “dual method” – a condom plus birth control like an IUD or the pill will help her prevent both pregnancy and STDs! Double bonus!
- A condom should be on the penis if the penis comes into contact with the vagina, mouth or anus. Teens hear a lot of myths, so remind her that pre-ejaculate can lead to pregnancy, the pull-out method isn’t the most effective, and she can still get pregnant while she has her period.
- A condom should be on the penis if the penis comes into contact with the vagina, mouth, or anus. It is the only way to prevent the spread of STDs!
- Tell her that no birth control is 100% effective – other than complete abstinence. Help her learn how to be safe with sexual health.
- Remind her that you are always here for questions, worries, or concerns. Offer her the option to text you if it helps her feel more comfortable.
- Condoms are the best bet for preventing STDs, even during oral sex. Dental dams can also help her prevent oral STDs. Get both items and show her how to use them during your conversation.
- Regular STD testing is important for sexually active teens. Try one of these teen-friendly clinics.
- Remind her that having condoms – even if it’s just in case – is responsible, not sketchy.
- Have her read about the different STDs and how to prevent them. Here is a teen-friendly guide
to share with her.
- Remind her that you are always here to address her questions, worries, or concerns. Offer her
the option to text you if that would make her feel more comfortable.
- Share with her how important she is and why she should demand respect in relationships.
- Talk to her about how you knew that a person was a good choice for a partner. Talk about the qualities that make a good partner – someone who is respectful, honest, kind, funny, makes you feel good about yourself, shares your values, etc.
- Help her understand how important it is to speak up for herself and say “No” when she’s uncomfortable, no matter how much pressure she’s under.
- Understand that sexual assault is a reality for lots of teens. Teens’ responses vary widely, but your support makes a big difference. Here are some resources for you as a parent.
- Remind her that having sex isn’t a goal or a badge of honor. She should be ready to have sex, but only when she’s ready, not when she feels like she should be ready or like she should have sex.
- Help your child understand how important it is to know that when a partner says “No,” it means to stop the sexual activity immediately. Even if a partner has said yes in the past, “No” means to stop the activity immediately.
- Share with her this resource so she can read more about healthy relationships.
- Refer her to this article about how to be smart at parties and gatherings to protect herself.
- Give her an out and explain that you are always there to pick her up – no questions asked – from a bad situation. Consider using “Plan X” in your family.
- Remind her that you are always here to address her questions, worries, or concerns. Offer her the option to text you if that would make her feel more comfortable.